F@#$%@# Them

We have the ability to remember lots of different things, good times bad times,  but unfortunately our experiences that shock the soul haunts us above all others. We often think about when somebody did something to us or we did something to someone else. Just in writing this my pulse increased a little and anxiety starts to creep into my throat. These are memories that will never leave us once we file them away. Some of us have memories from the time we are little and others not until latter but the result is always the same.

 

That's why forgive and forget is not a real thing. Forgiving is a choice and not a feeling. Sometimes when I think about what someone has done to me or someone else I start to feel the same things I originally thought like anger and emotion if I don't push it from my mind I can actually taste the disdain in my mouth. I really don't know a way of not feeling this way. I guess the answer might be psychotherapy or maybe medication. I only tell you about these feeling because I think I can't be the only one.

 

So how do you cope with this. The answer is forgiveness. How do you think WWII veterans felt toward the Germans or Japanese. They Hated them more then anyone could ever hate. It was more personnel then it could ever be but in the end they forgave and became friends with each other. Of course some never did forgive but most did eventually. That doesn't mean that those old feelings die with your forgiveness but if you forgive you can push them down easier. As matter of fact the more sympathetic you are toward your enemy the less they control your mind and therefor your life.

 

It's not because you are a bad person it's because anger and hate are all consuming and the longer you let those feelings go, the more they control you until your just a petty bitter                            . Well you know. So your forgiveness releases you not them. Think about it this way. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be friends, it doesn't mean you have to let someone walk all over you. it just means your not going to waste your time and emotions hating someone that may not even care or know that you are mad at them.

 

You may say they deserve my hate. You may be right but does it even make sense to spend time on someone you don't like while ruining and missing the times with your real family and friends. If your relationship requires communication such as work. Be professional and nice. Let them waste their time on you and not the other way around. Who would have thought that the best way to get even with somebody was to Forgive them. Oh and don't forget to forgive yourself.

 

If you have specific issues that you would like to discuss you can leave a comment and I will answer you. If what you want to discuss something personal leave a comment that says HEY and I will give you information so you can contact me by email.