Nothing is impossible if you really want it. People say all the time oh I wish I could lose weight or I wish I could quit smoking or I really wish I could save money and these are just a few of the things we strive for. Now I know there are medical conditions when you take certain medicines or you have a bad thyroid or what ever that it is next to impossible to lose weight but this isn't what this article is about. If you are 100% completely honest with your self you enjoy what ever it is that you are doing and don't want to quit.
I have lots of bad habits, I drink alcohol, I smoke cigars, I chew snuff, and I love any food that is terrible for me. but the reason I have these bad habits is because I would rather eat then be skinny. I love to drink every once in a while, sometimes I smoke a cigar everyday for 3 or 4 strait and sometimes I don't touch them for a couple of months, usually because it's cold outside. I'm the same with alcohol. So you may say well if you can go a couple of months then your really not addicted. You are absolutely right I'm not addicted to cigars or alcohol or even chewing even though I do it everyday most of the time.
I smoked a box of Marlboro's almost everyday unless I was sick for 16 years strait. I was as addicted as you could get. I tried to quit a couple of times for my wife or when my daughter was born and I failed because deep down inside I got pleasure out of it and I didn't want to quit and that's what most of us do. We make an effort to quit but we fail because deep inside we don't want to quit. I was in the military that whole sixteen years. I had seen hundreds of guys try to quit and fail. At one time I worked with 97 guys and only 3 didn't smoke or chew. Thank God we got past that era.
Then one day I noticed that not only did I have to smoke for my addiction but my body was so dependent on nicotine that I had to smoke just to stay awake even if I had 8 hours of sleep. Well I don't know about you but that pissed me off. and so on my next days off. I quit cold turkey and no I didn't start chewing. Now I'm not going to lie, I had the same cravings everyone else gets and even a year later I would get cravings so bad it would drive me crazy but the longer I went the less I had and eventually they stopped all together. What was the difference? The difference was that I decided to quit because I wanted to quit.
Now I know if we were face to face and you smoke or have another bad habit you would argue until you died that you had special circumstances that you couldn't quit no matter what . . . . blah blah blah. Have you ever noticed that most of our younger people are never guilty of anything. Ya, they learned it from us! Not only do we not take responsibility for our actions we make excuses for theirs.
Now I know that my parents were not perfect but my mother was damn close but we were always responsible for our actions and sometimes we were found guilty by association.
If you did something wrong at one of your friends houses it wasn't uncommon for their parents to punish you and if you were smart you didn't say a word about it when you got home because if your parents thought you had embarrassed them by making an ass out of yourself when you were a guest you would get punished twice for the same crime. Not even murders serve double jeopardy but we did. Did we lie to keep from getting punished? You know we did, we weren't idiots but our parents would be just and when no guilty party could be found we would all got what for. Oh the good old days.
Do the kids have different problem then we did? The short answer is no but you just didn't get special treatment back then now we give everyone special treatment. Well I'm going to go old school on you and just tell it like it is. If you have a problem and you don't quit the actions that are causing the problem then you just don't want to change. Oh by the way if you ADHD, ADD, OCD, CFYAWBH, that's last one starts out with Cant Find. It doesn't matter. They didn't have medication for that when we all had it and some of us did turn out to be serial killers but most of us did pretty good. So when you decided that you really have had enough come join us but until then we don't want to hear how your special.
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