Got Control?

In this world we would love for someone else to make sure we are never bored, lonely, or . . . . . . well . . . sad. Now a days we teach our children that it's our responsibility to give them the best life possible. When they are bored we entertain them. We enroll them in sports, take them to movies, bowling, restaurants, buy them computers, cell phones, game conceals and on and on and on. Does this make us bad parents. Well, the short answer is no. As a matter of fact we are probable the most attentive parents ever. With every good thing we run into new problems

I guess maybe I should have started this article different so you would understand that a lot of adults face these same problems. The problem with us and our children is we don't know how to make our selves happy. So what do we do? We pass on the responsibility to someone else.

This puts us in a no win situation of never being satisfied and therefore unhappy. As you already know if you have raised children, we cannot make them happy all the time and the same it true for you. You have to learn to be happy by yourself. Entertain yourself, and rely on yourself. The fill in for not learning to do this is always looking for the next big thing which never really make us happy. If you learn to be happy then no one can take that happiness away from you and you won't have to be constantly be entertained.

You can not learn to do this over night and like everything else it takes a little work but I'm going to give you the very first step that will help you be on your way. So this idea is very simple but very hard to master. Are you ready.

Don't worry about what you cant control. Accept the world for what it is. If you do this then it will be easier for you to be happy. When you realize how much time you worry about things you cant control It will give you more time to concentrate on your happiness and learn something about yourself. For instance if your kid wrecks your car  . . . . .  it's already over. Nothing can take that away so why do we spend so much time moping around and being mad. No amount of chastising them will fix your car and if we are totally honest with ourselves we know that it won't keep it from happening again. If we can learn to do that surely we can learn to make ourselves happy without spending money or driving our significant others crazy. So the next time you start to worry about something all you have to do is ask one question. Well getting upset change the situation. If not move on. This is something that you can change your life for the better.

If you master this . . . . Total control.