Should We Give Up?

Happy Valentines. Regardless of what you think of the holiday you have to admit that if you have other people in your life then your relationship with those people are important. I only say this, because you do have to accept that some people want to be alone and don't want to be around others so for them it's better for them and others to live their life the way they see fit. Sometimes we don't understand people but that doesn't mean that their way of life isn't just as important to them as yours is to you.

 

We talk all the time on this blog about helping others but sometimes you have to except that some people don't want or need out help. I'm not saying not to try but at the same time do it with understanding and a kind heart. we need to be willing to admit that we don't know everything about everyone's situations and therefore we will sometimes say something trying to help that is not appropriate for the situation. So if someone comes to you for help then let them tell you their whole story before giving advise or offering to help. Also ask questions if you need more information.

 

Just as important as all that is try not to go off half cocked meaning if you don't know what the situation is keep your mouth closed even if you do think you know. Another one is don't get involved in a conversation that your not invited into. knowing a persons whole problem is essential to solving it.

 

Probable the biggest thing is before you waste hours of your time on someone's else's problems make sure that they want to solve it. Relationships are tricky and just because you think someone's mate is crappy doesn't mean they are going to listen to your advice even if they are on the rocks.

 

Go by past experiences, if your friend has a habit of being self destructive then the best thing you can do is be sympathetic to their cause and not really tell them what to do if you know it's not going to help. This is one of the reasons we need to keep learning and never stop listening. Listening sometimes is better then talking. I know all this because I have made ever mistake I just talked about at least once. Does that mean we should give up? Well you can do what you want but you will feel better about yourself if you at least try.