Aretha Would Be Proud

If you want people to respect you then you have to respect yourself. Really if you get that I can quit right here. There is a little more to it then that but it's a good starting point. Another ingredient that you need is to get respect you have to give respect. People will only treat you with the standards that you hold them too and If you don't treat them right they will probable decide it's not worth their time to care about what you want. Just remember some people have respect for no one and if your smart you'll stay away from them. Don't worry about them, they've been looking for a replacement since they got you.

Now there's no law saying you have to respect yourself or anyone else but it does lead to a happier life if you at least try to have standards. Just make sure your standards are not so high that it's impossible for anyone to qualify. I heard a quote about 30 years ago and I never forgot it. "No matter how good looking (he or she.)  is there is someone somewhere tired of putting up with their crap." It basically says don't get caught up in the hype. Easier said then done.

Now I know that a lot of you think the reason older people date younger people is because of their looks and this is probable true but another reason I think might be just as important is younger people haven't been around long enough and it takes longer for them to realize that the older person they are dating is full of crap. Young people I hate to be the barer of bad news but the reason you think you know everything is a survival instinct so you won't be afraid to take on the world at a young age. The true measure of maturity is when you realize you don't know everything and never will. Don't feel bad we all thought we did too. "One reason no one is smart enough to know everything is because the truth changes with every new element that is added including time." I put that in quotation marks to let you know I just make that up and it's mine now so feel free to repeat it but don't print it on t-shirts. Hehe.

aaaaaah . . . . . what were we talking about? Oh ya respect, I almost forgot. Now to pass this test your going to have to be humble. If you want him to open the door for you and pull out your chair then you might have to bring him something to eat to the living room in front of his friends. Also If your in a relationship for the long run. This goes for both parties, don't talk your partner down to others and always build them up to your friends. We are only jealous of or put people on pedestals when we don't know everything about them. I've told my daughter for a long time if you want to be disappointed envy a person.

Now if you do your part and they do their part then your relationship will become stronger along with your love for each other and that my friends equals all most perfect happiness. I hope I've given you something to consider. Oh and one more thing I want to say before I go is a big difference in age in a relationship doesn't mean your partner is full of crap, it just makes the odds higher. I've known several couples in this situation that are happily married.