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Hello Everyone. I hope you have enjoyed this blog so far, if you haven't then I appreciate you coming back and I will either assume you are related to me or I have already sent you your check in the mail. So if you have been reading for the last two days you have notice that I added list of days at the top along with broad categories. Yesterday was Pot luck so I just wrote whatever I wanted so today is really the first day of this new system that I came up with. As always I still am open to all suggestions so leave comments. Ok today is Monday except for Japan and a few other countries (so if your from there your just going to be confused) so the subject for today is  . . . . hold on a sec while I check . . . . . Men and Women, What? Who came up with this crap? Ok here it goes. Wish me luck.

A lot of people have asked me how have I stayed married for so long and if you know me personally you know that it is because my wife puts up with me. Now you may say if that's the secret then what the hell do you do? Well to tell you the truth not much of anything, I mean after all I've been writing this blog every day now since the 1st so you get the idea. I can tell you that I did do a lot of work to make sure that I married a woman that would put up with me. So I would say the first secret to staying married is to be honest with yourself when looking for that significant other.

If your hard to get along with then know that and don't marry someone else that is also a pain in a butt. For example If you have ever been around a couple and you think oh he's/she's so nice why does he put up with her/him. Don't be a hater that just means one of them knows that they need someone to put up with them. Don't get me wrong this is far from the only criteria and there's no set rules on what works and what doesn't but its a good place to start.

Another piece of the puzzle is making sure that the person that you are in a relationship with wants the same things that you do  If you want to get married and they don't then what are you doing in that relationship. Now I'm not saying everything is a deal breaker but it's something you should seriously be looking at.

Ok so now if your attracted to somebody and they are attracted to you, you've decided that they can put up with you and they have the same basic ideas on marriage and life then you are already ahead of a lot of couples out there. I haven't really told you the most important one of all. The single most important thing you can do to preserve you marriage is make sure that you both believe in staying married for life. Without that it will never work.

Now your probable asking yourself how will I know for sure and the real answer to that is you really won't. Hopefully your a really good judge of character but just remember when somebody wants something really bad they have a tendency to do what ever it takes to get what they want. Some of you already know this from life lessons but it applies to all situations. So you really don't know for sure but all is not lost because your job in marriage isn't to make sure they do their part, it's to make sure you do your part.

There's two things that make us very dangerous even to ourselves and that is thinking that you are better then all your friends and the second it thinking you can change someone. If your friends tell you that someone is crazy, then they are probable crazy. Most of the time you do this because of looks and you think if someone is that good looking then they are probable exactly like my dream mate. Uh Wrong! Just remember that no matter how someone looks that chances are that someone out there is probable tired of putting up with their crap.  Don't take it as a challenge and think they just didn't know how to treat them. 99.99% of the time your going to be wrong. If you don't trust your friends then who can you trust.

Now as I said earlier you cant control what your partner does and it defiantly takes two fully committed people to stay married. You can be the best spouse in the world and your marriage can still fall apart. That's just reality. Just try to remember that there is always someone out there and when I say someone I'm not talking about one person (i.e. sole mate), that wants the same things in life that you do. I don't want you to think that sole mates don't exist, I just want you to be of the reality that there might be thousands of people out there that could fill that position.

Marriage is really challenging and really rewarding just like everything else in life you have to work for it but if you put in the time and forgiveness there's really is nothing better then always having someone that loves you and is always there for you and vise versa. Just remember that your far from perfect also. Unless your one of my relatives or personal friends the we know that we are. Hehe.

I hope that something I have said will inspire you to move on and make today a better day for you and all that know you. Thanks for reading.